by Edelyn Dagñalan

They always say action speaks louder than words but action, without words, is confusing. And they (often) forget to say that though action speaks louder than words, words can be very suggestive that is why it’s better to have said much than to have never said what you needed and wanted to say when you had a chance.

I pity the people who don’t get to say what they want or need– they will forever have that regret in their hearts. They thought that it’s always action that gets the job done but I think they have to think again– words are very important, they complete the action, they explain the action.

Whenever I am in a situation that requires me to speak out, more often than not I say what I feel. Although sometimes I am not good at confrontation (’cause when the going gets tough I choose to sulk myself in silence which I consider a weakness), I find ways to express myself and say what is/are needed to be said. One of which is writing a letter. Yes, letters can be dangerous, they can be interpreted in different ways; they can be broadcasted; they can be used against the one who made it. But, I tell you this, you might think it’s not brave to resort to writing a letter because at one point it avoids confrontation, for me, it is one of the most courageous and thoughtful acts one can do. Courageous because the words you put in there can be used as a “blackmail”. Thoughtful because you spend time thinking of words and writing them down on a paper. As for me, I only write to those I am afraid to lose. The letters that I write are parts of me; each time I make one, a lose a parcel of my being but it is the only kind of loss I celebrate. Writing someone a letter is an indication that the recipient is important to me or that I want to know more about him/her. That is why I really get delighted whenever I receive a letter or a note. It’s one of the best gifts for me. It’s simple yet it really comes from the heart. And I miss receiving one how I wish I could write to myself and pretend I didn’t know…

Anyway, the point I want to make here is that people should not be afraid of saying how and what they feel in any freaking way. There are people who are so contented to see actions happening before their eyes but at the back of their minds they question if the things they see are true only because they are not backed up with words. Cold treatment. Indifference. Broken relationships. These all just rooted from actions not being supported by words. I’m not saying that for every act you do must be explained, I am after the balance of the words and acts. Imagine watching a play where actors never deliver any line– yes, you might be amazed at first but you will surely yearn for words.

So, if you are one of those who always choose to let the action speak for them, maybe it’s time to change your way. There might be people around you who are also craving for your speech, wanting and needing your words to feel secured. Say those words you keep even if they mean pain, at least they are known and heard. Remember, one of the reasons for hailing humans is because they have language. And the best way to use a language is to speak up, to communicate through words.

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(STOP PLAYING SAFE! JUST SAY IT! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? THEY MISS HEARING FROM YOU.)

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“Language has three important uses–it expresses thought, conceals thought, and takes the place of thought.”
~Unknown

“Let thy speech be better than silence, or be silent.”
~Dionysius of Halicarnassus